Talking to Storms

Connor Simonoff Oenomel, LCSW

Consulting | Education | Coaching | Solutions architecture

Talking to Storms creates an affirming, trauma-informed, and strengths-based context for growth that recognizes the complexity of thriving in a diverse environment. We provide diversity, equity, and inclusion consulting, education, professional coaching, and solution architecture services, all with a special focus on gender diversity, trauma, social justice, and LGBTQ+ communities.

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Professional Education Offering: Understanding & Serving Multi-Faceted Gender Identities
Understanding & Serving Multi-Faceted Gender Identities is a 3-part professional education seminar that allows medical, mental health, or holistic care providers of all kinds to learn how to better serve transgender & non-binary patients/clients.
Increasing your competence with transgender patients will lead to better healthcare outcomes such as reduced medical mistrust in this population, improved mental health and safety, and reduced medical stigma. We will explore the basics of transgender terminology and gender theory, learn from transgender individuals about their experiences, understand the statistical realities of this population, and learn strategies to welcome transgender patients and clients into your practice. This seminar is for all care providers: medical, mental, holistic, behavioral, and more.Please contact me to learn more about scheduling this workshop for your group or organization!

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About

Connor Simonoff Oenomel, LCSW
Connor is originally from Boston, Massachusetts, USA and currently resides in Amsterdam, Netherlands. He's passionate about working with the LGBTQ+ community and counteracting stigma and oppression by de-pathologizing mental health, sexuality, and gender. As a macro social worker, Connor works as a coach/counselor, an educator, and a consultant to address both micro and macro levels of diversity, equity, inclusion, healing, and social change. He identifies as white, trans, Jewish, queer, and polyamorous and uses he/him/his pronouns.

Talking to Storms
Talking to Storms provides trauma-informed, empathetic, and empowering coaching, consulting, education, and solution architecture services to an international audience. We specailize in diversity, equity, and inclusion initiatives and especially in issues concerning the LGBTQ+ community. We create an affirming, strengths-based environment for growth that recognizes the complexity of thriving in a diverse environment.
Our name is inspired by Ellen Kort's poem "Advice for Beginners".

Areas of Interest
Systems & Macro Social Work
mutual aid; community organizing; liberation health; health and healthcare equity; cultural competency; diversity, equity, and inclusion; trauma-informed public policy; solutions architecture
Sexuality & Gender
LGBTQ+ communities; TINGE (transgender, intersex, non-binary, and gender expansive) communities; transition coaching for gender diverse individuals; polyamory and non-monogamy; sex- and kink-positive
Mental Health
trauma; burnout; self-care; self-esteem; self-advocacy

Credentials
Licensed Certified Social Worker (LCSW)
Massachusetts, USA
Master of Social Work (MSW)
Specializations: Macro Social Work | Trauma & Violence
Boston University, 2020
Bachelor of Arts in Anthropology
Minor: Sexuality & Queer Studies
Brandeis University, 2012

Professional Memberships
National Association of Social Workers (NASW)
Massachusetts Chapter
Beroepsvereniging van Professionals in Sociaal Werk (BPSW)Society of Gender ProfessionalsShare-Net Netherlands

Coaching

Talking to Storms provides coaching for professionals and providers that is an interactive process of exploring biases and privileges, setting goals, gathering resources, practicing skills, healing, and learning about how to enact change in your organization, profession, or school. My approach is down to earth and is grounded in empathy, humor, and optimism, but without pulling punches. Together we create a space for learning and accountability that can help you pursue positive change.Sessions are virtual and available for people all over the world. Coaching is conducted in English. I have immediate availability!

Specializations

LGBTQ+
Talking to Storms is specifically aimed at providing services that center queer, trans, polyamorous, or other LGBTQ+ communities. I specialize in working with providers and professionals who have contact with LGBTQ+/LHBTI+ populations. I consult on issues such as identity exploration, coming out, transition, self-advocacy, and trauma. Talking to Storms is an explicitly sex-positive coaching service and I am affirming not only of all sexualities (including asexuality) and genders (including intersex, transgender, and non-binary), but also of non-monogamy, kink, and sex work.


Trauma
I specialize in trauma from both a micro and macro perspective and frequently use trauma as a lens through which to understand the experience of marginalization. I also provide coaching to professionals experiencing burnout, compassion fatigue, and vicarious trauma. Minority stress, microaggressions, pandemic trauma, capitalism, perfectionism, and anxiety can all feed into a somatic and emotional experience of trauma and Talking to Storms takes a holistic approach to trauma-informed care.

Models & Modalities

Talking to Storms takes an integrative approach and works with a variety of different coaching modalities and theoretical models when providing services. Please note that coaching is not therapy and these models are not used to treat mental, emotional, psychological, and/or cognitive conditions.
- CBT/DBT
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Emotion Coaching
- Humanistic Therapy
- Existential Therapy
- Attachment Theory
- Ecological Systems Theory
- Liberation Health Model
- Mindfulness and Somatic Healing

Sliding Scale Pricing

I operate on a sliding-scale system designed to empower everyone, regardless of their economic reality, to access the tools needed for growth, healing, and competency. All rates at Talking to Storms are listed with the minimum and maximum and clients can choose their rate anywhere on that scale. While I encourage clients to consider their economic privilege in addition to their budget, you never need to justify why you pick a certain rate. Learn more about the concept of sliding scale pricing here.

Education/Consulting Rates

Per Hour Rate:
Euros: €30-€100 per hour
US Dollars: $30-$100 per hour
Unfortunately, I am not able to accept insurance.
Euro price excludes VAT.

Coaching Packages

Personal growth takes time. It doesn't happen overnight. And for many of us, doing that healing is hard work towards which we need to dedicate time, energy, and space. My job is to help you achieve all your goals while balancing forward progress and efficiency with thoroughness and creating space for healing and processing.For this reason, Talking to Storms offers 1-1, ongoing coaching services in a packaged form only.Packages allow us to ensure we make time for sessions to make progress but they also leave plenty of time and flexibility for you to get your needs met.

  • All sessions are virtual and offered in English only at this time.

  • Full Sessions are 1 hour and Micro Sessions are 30 minutes.

  • All packages are designed to support your growth over a 2-4 month period.

  • Packages expire 6 months after purchase.

  • If we still have things to work on after 6 months, we will meet and re-evaluate where to go from there.

  • All the offerings in each package are flexible; you can schedule your full sessions and micro sessions whenever you wish.

  • Some clients like to lay a foundation with full sessions, then do micro sessions whereas others want an intermingling with full sessions once a month and micro sessions in between. It's completely up to you!

Select a Package to Learn More

The Inspiration Package

This package is designed for people who just need a little help puzzling through something. Maybe you need a few resources, a quick 101, or to think through an issue you're having at work. This is great for sampling out coaching to see if it's right for you or working on a small goal. If you're a previous client who wants to come back for a bit of a 'check-in' this is a great package for you!Package Includes
- 2 Full Sessions (1 hour each)
- 2 Micro Sessions (30 minutes each)
- Sessions can be arranged weekly for 4 weeks or every other week for 8 weeks.
- Flexible scheduling if you need to skip a few weeks!
Sliding Scale Rate
€180 - €360 (includes VAT)
$160 - $316
Do you need a payment plan? You can pay this rate in two or three installments 1 month apart if desired.

Reminders:

  • Packages expire after 6 months so all sessions must be scheduled and used within 6 months of purchase. This keeps us moving forward and making progress!

  • All sessions are virtual at this time.

  • Sessions are conducted in English.

  • Unfortunately, we cannot accept insurance.

The Possibility Package

This package is the next step up from the inspiration package and is our most frequently purchased package. It seems to be exactly the right amount of time to really dig and explore the possibilities of change in your life, experience growth, and complete a goal. This package is recommended for most clients.Package Includes
- 4 Full Sessions (1 hour each)
- 6 Micro Sessions (30 minutes each)
- Most clients schedule sessions weekly for 10 weeks, but other arrangements are possible.
Sliding Scale Rate
€420 - €850 (includes VAT)
$370 - $740
Do you need a payment plan? You can pay this rate in two or three installments 1 month apart if desired.

Reminders:

  • Packages expire after 6 months so all sessions must be scheduled and used within 6 months of purchase. This keeps us moving forward and making progress!

  • All sessions are virtual at this time.

  • Sessions are conducted in English.

  • Unfortunately, we cannot accept insurance.

The Progress Package

The progress package is designed to be for people seeking maximum support and growth. Choose this package if you are working through something especially complex or if you have several goals you want to achieve.Package Includes
- 8 Full Sessions (1 hour each)
- 8 Micro Sessions (30 minutes each)
- Designed to be used over the course of 3 to 4 months.
Sliding Scale Rate
€725 - €1,450 (includes VAT)
$630 - $1,265
Do you need a payment plan? You can pay this rate in two or three installments 1 month apart if desired.

Reminders:

  • Packages expire after 6 months so all sessions must be scheduled and used within 6 months of purchase. This keeps us moving forward and making progress!

  • All sessions are virtual at this time.

  • Sessions are conducted in English.

  • Unfortunately, we cannot accept insurance.

Create Your Own Package

Having trouble finding a package that fits? Do you want to do something a little different? You can create your own package! For some people, choosing a pre-set package doesn't feel right for them and they would prefer to customize something.Packages Can Include
- 2 - 15 Full Sessions (1 hour each)
- 2 - 15 Micro Sessions (30 minutes each)
- Anywhere from 1 - 5 months of sessions
Sliding Scale Rates
Please contact me for rates.
Payment plans are available.

Reminders:

  • Packages expire after 6 months so all sessions must be scheduled and used within 6 months of purchase. This keeps us moving forward and making progress!

  • All sessions are virtual at this time.

  • Sessions are conducted in English.

  • Unfortunately, we cannot accept insurance.

Consulting

Our businesses, organizations, groups, and lives are richer with diversity, but often that equity, inclusion, and healing is difficult to achieve. How do you create a work culture in which everyone belongs? What's the best way to support marginalized groups without talking over them? If you're struggling with making your organization more equitable and diverse, Talking to Storms can help. Our approach is strengths-based, efficient, down-to-earth, and participatory.What We Offer:
Needs Assessments
Evaluations
Forms/Policies Analysis & Intervention
Social Media/Website Analysis & Intervention
Trauma-Informed Policy Creation
Professional Development Training
Project Planning or Development
Workplace Culture Guidance
Participatory Goal/Objective Setting & Vision Mapping
To get started with consulting services, please contact us directly!

Areas of Focus

Talking to Storms works with clients all over the DEI spectrum, but specializes in the following:

  • LGBTQ+ diversity, equity, and inclusion

  • Creating space for gender diversity in organizations & non-profits

  • Healthcare Equity & Access

  • Cultural Competency Training for Care Providers

  • Mutual Aid

  • Trauma-Informed Public Policy

  • Participatory Research & Community Organizing

Workshops

Talking to Storms provides workshops on a variety of topics and especially focuses on professional development trainings for care professionals. Connor Simonoff Oenomel, LCSW is a dynamic educator that has a knack for breaking down complex topics into easy-to-grasp pieces. He encourages participation and promotes a casual, safe, empathetic learning environment.

Testimonials

"Connor did a great job touching on both micro and macro interventions which can help make our clinical practice more inclusive towards gender diverse folks. We discussed concrete steps that can be taken in and outside the workplace to implement changes. Additionally, Connor uses tweets, memes, and videos to bring a light humor to a serious conversation, which helps make the training even more engaging! At the end, we were left with ample amount of time to ask questions and review real life scenarios. I highly recommend this training for all healthcare providers!"
-SD-
"Connor provides a safe space through his experience and availability to allow us to get familiar with theses concepts, to ask questions without risking harm, and provides context to a small but very real part of humanity in order for us to be better care providers for all people. Connor is very open and willing to help along people better understand the realities of LGBTQ+ people, he facilitates conversation and learning very efficiently and interactively."
-Annie-

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Contact

Email
talkingtostorms@gmail.com
Phone
USA: +1 617-600-8891
(SMS & Voicemail)
NL: +31 06 112 33 019
(WhatsApp, Signal, SMS & Calls)

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